I was able to attend a very enlightening and yet disturbing workshop in April. You may have seen the notice for it in the April CONNECTION: “Help or Hindrance: Faith Community Response to Domestic Violence”.
Domestic violence or abuse can take many forms–physical, verbal, psychological, and sometimes economic. In any form it is devastating, hurtful and damaging not only to the abused but many times to other family members who witness the abuse. Such abuse can often result in the use of deadly force.
What is hard for many people to wrap their heads around is how pervasive domestic violence is. The statistics are staggering but they only reflect the incidents which are reported. That which goes unreported and undetected is like the portion of the iceberg that lies beneath the water. Domestic violence goes on in our communities, in our neighborhoods and yes, even among the members of our congregations. It is a matter of public health and welfare, it is a moral concern, and it is a spiritual concern. We need to be raising the issue of domestic violence and spousal abuse in our congregations.
People need to know that there are pastors and people in our churches that they can talk to about their own situation in a safe and secure environment. They need to be led to resources that can help them make good decisions for themselves and for their families. They need to know they are not alone, they are not at fault, and they should not feel ashamed. The victim of such abuse needs to be given hope, hope for a future that does not involve hurt or harm.
If you would like to find out more about the resources available in our community, you can be in touch with our office or look for resources and links to various agencies on our web site. We would certainly encourage making the issue of Domestic Violence a topic for your congregational education program and a topic of importance for all ministerial groups in our region. The more awareness we can bring to this issue, the more people caught up in such violence will be able to find help and hope.
I would encourage you to be the “HELP” and not the “hindrance” to lifting the veil, which lies over this terrible and evil thing, we call domestic violence/spousal abuse. For people of faith who follow the prince of peace it is the right thing to do.
–Vernon A. Victorson
